1. Never assume someone will help you just because they have the resource to do so. You will save yourself from a lot of disappointment. You are not entitled to things just because you want them as well.
2. "Put your oxygen mask on first, before helping others. I know it is tempting to help others, but have to make sure you take care of yourself first. You're not selfish, you are committed to your goals." -Taylor Offer
You should be the most important asset to yourself. It is okay to be selfish and it is okay to put your needs before everyone else's. Make sure you are safe before going out to help others because everyone looks out for themselves. Offer to help only when you are stable and in perfect condition to do so.
3. Do your share of work before criticizing others. People will not take your words for anything and think you are not credible if you bash someone for a mistake and tend to do the same yourself afterwards.
4. Confidence can be practised as it is the same as other interpersonal skills. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the more you will get used to being confident in your own skin. It also resonates with 'The Spotlight Effect' where we tend to think everyone's eyes are on us at all times and they are judging us indiscriminately; which is absolutely NOT true at all.
5. Value people's time and the advice that they give you as it is a great thing to part with someone. Never take things for granted so thank them, even if the advice was not relevant or just too trivial, just thank them. A simple thank you does no harm to anyone. Appreciate people and see where that takes you.
6. Network and build genuine connections, provide value to each other. If you are alone in a foreign country, this is the key to your survival, where jobs are dependent on referrals, your communication skills and your portrayal of yourself.
7. Be kind to people and do not judge them instantly. The first impression should never be the last impression, so give them a chance to truly show who they are. And if still, you think they are toxic or do not add value to your life then move on. Australia has a sea of people from different facets of life and somewhere and in time, you will find your kind of people. So just keep a lookout and do not be harsh on people with your criticisms.
8. It is okay to get burned out sometimes, but stopping dead on your tracks because of that doesn't justify you taking the break. Due to this hustle culture among our generation, we tend to grind ourselves too hard and get burnout easily. Therefore, it is necessary to take adequate rest but do not stop your journey entirely.
9. Being busy does not always mean you are being productive. No, it is not the obvious using social media or playing games. What I mean is, not prioritizing your task properly to get the most done. When starting my assessment, I focus on tedious little things than focusing on doing research and making drafts that actually contribute to my assignment.
10. Be more present in the current moment as opposed to focusing too much on the past and future. It is good to acknowledge them but the days that you are living right now are flying by as you are getting too obsessed over what has already happened and what you are expecting in the future.
🤍 Week's Snapshot 🤍
Book: I would like to suggest Such A Fun Age by Kiley Reid. It definitely did put some things into perspective for me about how we can sometimes be ignorant towards how our actions may affect others despite our best intentions.
Movie: Soul and Cruella on Disney+, have just lit up my movie night last weekend. I have not watched 101 Dalmations so might have missed any reference if there were any but loved the movie regardless. Soul is another one of those 'opens-your-eyes' kind of movie, with a simple plot yet so powerful at the same time.
Shows: Hello, My Twenties! (k-drama) starts with 5 housemates who live at Belle Epoque, despite not related at all go through their troubles in their life together strengthening their bond and trust in each other. It is highly relatedable for young adults like myself to laugh at the awkwardness of this age group.